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The Experience of Separating For Adults

It is important that we hear and try to understand how our children feel about the separation process. To do this, we need to look at our own emotional experiences and try to understand them. When we are aware of what is happening with us, we can better help our children.

Ending a relationship can be challenging. It can mean:

  • Developing new parenting arrangements.
  • Helping your children make a positive adjustment.
  • Dealing with your own emotions.
  • Making legal decisions.

Separation is a process that begins long before couples actually separate. The decision to separate probably wasn't made rapidly or easily. Often couples try repeatedly to make the relationship work before deciding to end it. In the end, most couples do not come to a mutual decision. Usually one partner is more ready to take the final step.